After many years of searching, you found the woman of your dreams, so you got down on one knee, proposed and after an excruciating couple of seconds, she said yes. Most guys think that's where their job ends as far as wedding planning goes and all they have to do is show up on the day and say “I do”. Well, they're very much mistaken.
In fact, letting your bride-to-be do all the planning sets a bad example for the rest of your lives together. As a true gentleman, you should be there to support your future missus through the whole process, arduous as it is. But make no mistake, the key word here is support, as your fiancée is going to have some very specific ideas about how the wedding is going to unfold, and it would be most unwise to get in her way.
Choosing a venue is the first and foremost order of business, as they set the tempo for the rest of the ceremony. Try to book it as much in advance as possible, as popular venues are usually booked for up to a year in advance. Figure out what your budget is and stick to it; you don't want to start your lives together with massive debt looming over you.
If you're looking to cut down costs, ask if you can bring your own liquor, since you can buy everything you need in bulk and save a decent amount of money. We can't help you with choosing a theme and dress code, but make sure you will be comfortable with it even after a very long and exhausting day. A good guideline is to aim for a wedding that will be the best party you've ever attended, whatever that may be to you and your significant other.
Getting into the details
After you've selected the venue and booked the date is when the madness starts – the catering, music, guest list, photographers, picking your groomsmen/best man, honeymoon etc. all need to be sorted. Make a list of everything that needs to be done and divide between you and your fiancée what each person will do independently and what you will do together, and make sure to take care of everything on your end.
When it comes to picking your best man and groomsmen, reliability should be of the highest priority, as they will be required to do a lot of supporting activities behind the scenes. For mutual decisions, take an interest and give an informed opinion on what you are deciding, even if it seems boring or irrelevant. It's also a good idea to hire a wedding stylist who will help you with the more difficult decisions and the planning of the event in general.
Nearing the finish line
As you near the date of the wedding, you should have most preparations sorted and paid for, or at least in their final stages. Double check that everyone is up to date and everything is going according to schedule. However, you should always plan for things going wrong, because they will. Once you accept that, you will be able to keep a cool head and deal with these problems without causing undue stress.
When it comes to your bachelor party, there are many ways to celebrate your last hurrah, but the general rule is to have fun without straying into Hangover or Wolf of Wall Street territory.
The final countdown
After months of preparation, the day of your wedding has finally arrived. Most grooms expect to be nervous, but end up finding themselves surprisingly at ease, any lingering doubt being about the technical aspects of the wedding and never about the act of getting married itself.
At times, the ceremony and reception may start to feel surreal or like you are having an out-of-body experience, but that's perfectly normal...and you will be having too much fun to care anyway.
Features Writer; Peter Minkoff
Peter is a a men's grooming & fashion writer at The Beard Mag & High Street Gent magazines from UK. Beside writing he worked as a menswear fashion stylist for many fashion events around UK & Europe! His future plans are in creating a personal blog for men's grooming!
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